Another not-great day.
However I'm rather strangely detached from all the drama. I'm starting to get accustomed to -having- emotions but not necessarily -doing- anything with them. "Just sit with the emotion" is getting easier to actually do. I sat with a whole lot of sadness during the day and it eventually eased up. Had a fair bit of a he and disgust this evening and that is easing up too. It is okay to -have- any emotion....it is what you do with it that matters and not doing anything is a fine choice. Well, other than just acknowledging their existence, that is. One of my all-time favorite lines from television -ever- is when the captain of a ship shares with the ship's Doctor that he (the captain) is crushing on a totally inappropriate fellow officer. After agreeing the captain shouldn't act on these feelings in any way, the captain asks "but what should I -do-?" The doctor says "just -be- _aware_. You may be surprised at what a difference it makes."
Guess what? He was right.
That was powerful! If more people would sit with their feelings a bit before reacting we would have a lot less explosive reactions I think. Also putting yourself in someone elses shoes before reacting helps as well.
ReplyDeleteYou're a quick learner, it's taken me five years to learn to just sit. I'm used to being a reactor, take action before even thinking kind of gal, especially in high stress situations, but now I'm learning that if I just wait, things usually work out without my muddling and worrying them to death.
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